Bullying: Oprah’s Call to Protect Kids
We can all learn from Oprah’s advice to kids and their parents today about how to deal with bullies.
Malignant NarcIssIsts, Wizards, and the Illusions that Mess Up Our Lives
The Wizard of Oz is a perfect metaphor for understanding the terrorists in our own homes. Abusive people are narcissists. Some are more malignant (deadly) than others. Narcissists suck us in with their wizardly illusions. We are charmed by their promises. We feel lucky and blessed to be chosen.
Yet, in time, we get hit by the tornado. We get spun around until we’re not quite sure whether we’re in Kansas or in Oz. Ultimately, we realize that our hero is actually an insecure wizard hiding behind a curtain. We also discover it isn’t so easy getting away. It isn’t as simple as clicking the heels of our magic red slippers.
- Book Review: The Wizard of Oz and Other Narcissists by Eleanor D. Payson
- Book Review: Freeing Yourself from the NarcIssist in Your Life by Linda Martinez-Lewi
Minimizing Rape: Phillips, Letterman, and Polanski
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In 2006, Denise Richards obtained a restraining order against Mr. Sheen.
On Christmas Day, 2009, Mr. Sheen was again arrested in Aspen, Colorado on felony charges of second degree assault and menacing with a deadly weapon as well as the misdemeanor charge of criminal mischief against his third wife, Brooke Mueller. In such cases, the state of Colorado mandates a restraining order. Mr. Sheen was released on an $8,500 bond.
Mr. Sheen has done two stints in rehab for drug and alcohol abuse. One was after a drug overdose, and the other after he was arrested for drinking and drug driving according to the BBC.
- Charlie Sheen & John Michael Farren: Bad Boys Held Accountable for Domestic Violence!!!
- Bravo, Emmys! Charlie Sheen Got Snubbed
- “My People Love Me:” Who Is the Bigger Nut Job?
- Brooke Mueller: Winning!
- CBS Kicked Charlie Sheen to the Curb Today
PAS fathers have just kicked litigation abuse in custody cases up another notch. Oksana Grigorieva, the mother of one of Mel Gibson’s children, was smart to record evidence of his abuse. Now, his attorney is trying to squash her like a bug to send a message to other mothers that documenting evidence of abuse can land them in jail for extortion.
Mary Margaret Scharf Farren, 43, is an attorney at the prestigious Skadden, Arps firm in Washington, D.C. She lives in a 4,300 square foot mansion on a heavily wooded lot with a swimming pool at 388 Wahackme Road in New Canaan, CT. Their home is worth $4.8 million.
When she married J. Michael Farren, 57, in Washington, D.C. on May 3, 1997, the marriage was reported in the New York Times. Her husband was at the time a vice president at Xerox. He had previously served in the cabinet of Pres. George H.W. Bush as Under Secretary of Commerce for International Trade. He also served under Pres. George W. Bush as White House deputy counsel.
On Monday, January 4, 2010, Ms. Farren served divorce papers on her husband. He had been emotionally abusive and hit her once three years ago.
On Wednesday, January 6, Ms. Farren attempted to discuss the divorce with her husband. He wanted to reconcile. She refused due to his explosive temper. In typical pit bull fashion, he attempted to murder her in their third-floor master bedroom.
John Michael Farren was arrested for attempted murder, first-degree assault, and first-degree strangulation. He was placed on suicide watch in the jail’s psychiatric ward.
- Washington Post Picks Up the Farren Story
- Charlie Sheen & John Michael Farren: Bad Boys Held Accountable for Domestic Violence!!!
Did NY Gov. David A. Paterson Intimidate a Woman Allegedly Abused by His Wing Man?
New York Gov. David A. Paterson claims he’s a champion for women who experience domestic violence. . .
Yet, it appears that behind closed doors Gov. Paterson was doing some intimidating of his own. David W. Johnson, who is described as the governor’s closest confidant, gatekeeper, and wing man, allegedly brutally beat his live-in girlfriend Sherr-una Booker on Halloween night, 2009. Although she diligently pursued securing a permanent order of protection, she mysteriously failed to appear in court on February 8 ~ the day after she spoke to Gov. Patterson on the phone. Her case was dismissed.
I also naively thought I could deal with her on my own. I asserted my rights under the law. I tried to fly under her radar by avoiding the office and cabana. I communicated in writing because it was a shield from verbal abuse, and it created a paper trail. But, it was my turn to be her target.
I started assembling my “posse.” This is a new idea adopted from Oprah’s show on bullies.
A “protection circle” of friends and family can take us only so far. If we’re smart, we’ll know when it is time to bring in a “posse” of professional people who are trained to deal with bullies, abusive people, and gang members.
I am so happy yoiu are writing these articles. Its about the truth, but the truth is hushed up, covered up, made light of and even joked about just because someone might be famous in some manner… and that is wrong. Keep up your great work!
I would like permission to use your cyber mouse picture for my english paper. I am writing on bullying. thanks Kim
Kim,
Thank you for asking for permission, but I don’t own the copyright on this cartoon. Good luck with your paper!
Anne Caroline
LN: How can I get my attorney’s to get the judge to see narcissists behavior and to step in to help to end a divorce. His attorney’s cant stand him and no one seems equipped to deal with the crazy behavior. I have tried to do research without much luck. How can we educate a judge with insulting them to the “dark triad” behavior. Is the only way to have him evaluated by a psychiatrist? I’m at the end of my rope with the system as no one seems to care and everything just gets moved out/delayed into the future costing a fortune.