It is difficult to explain the difference between a “pit bull” abuser ~ the kind that won’t let go ~ and a “cobra” abuser ~ the kind who will strike to kill when he/she feels threatened.
John Wayne Bobbitt is a quintessential “pit bull” abuser. For those of you who need to understand the difference in order to craft a viable safety plan, I strongly urge you to visit The Insider web site and look at tonight’s clip several times.
The Insider is a gossip show. He’s not “in love” with his ex-wife Lorena Gallo. Listen and watch closely. He can’t let go. He’s seizing the opportunity to get back with Lorena with everything he’s got. This is what the experts mean by “control.” Like most abusive people, he’s in denial. His “mea culpa” admissions are just enough to make him appear sympathetic.
Listen and watch Lorena closely. She’s smart. She’s not buying any of it. She’s telling him with everything that she’s got that it is over. She’s “constructing boundaries.”
I hope that she knows that when he finally understands that she’s moved on that she’s at substantial risk.
If you are one of the millions of women walking in Lorena’s shoes, click on the “pit bull” and “safety plan” tabs at the top of this post. Surf around this site. Every day I add new information to guide you in your quest for freedom and recovery from abuse.