Manipulation of the Legal System as an Instrument of Abuse


Eagle by Carole May

Eagle by Carole May

If you want to make a real difference, become a legal eagle watching over the court system.

We all know that “justice” in the legal system belongs to the affluent and powerful.  But, I think many of you would be shocked to discover how easily the court system can be manipulated as an instrument of abuse.

A rich and powerful man with a well-established professional career can afford to out-litigate a wife who sacrificed her own professional ambitions to care for his home and his children.  A man who never had a second of time for his kids can suddenly discover how easily and effectively a well-funded custody dispute can destroy his estranged wife.  There’s also the refusal to pay child or spousal support.  False allegations of abuse and arrests on false charges can destroy a person’s reputation.  These are just a few of the ways sophisticated, affluent people have found to manipulate the court system as an instrument of abuse.  It’s all legal.

Many attorneys fuel these “Wars of the Roses” because the legal fees essentially transfer family assets into the coffers of the law firm.  And, judges who are burned out or personally abusive or naive sit back and let it all happen.

A few states require judicial training on domestic violence cases.  Fewer states have integrated court tracks for cases involving allegations of domestic violence.  The manual advising women on how to navigate the legal system is eleven years old.  A Google search to research this post revealed a pitiful lack of progress, resources, and funding.  A few brave souls in law schools are soldiering forward, but they need reinforcements.

Most women who decide it is time to exit an abusive relationship with a powerful man quickly discover they have three options which leaves them essentially with a least-worst choice:

  • Remain in an abusive relationship to protect their children’s future opportunities and to avoid going on welfare.  The ex-wife of a prominent surgeon, for example, asked me, “which abuse is worse?  My own physical, emotional, and financial abuse?  Or, is it child abuse to tell my kids they’ll be going to community college instead of Harvard because I can’t and won’t take it anymore?”  Tough questions.  Tough choices.
  • Walk away with nothing.  This was the choice that Tina Turner and Carolyn Jessop made.  They decided it was more prudent to invest their energies in their futures than to get their share of family wealth via a court battle that would likely prove to be futile.
  • Spend a fortune trying to recoup their investment in the marriage.  Jeanne I. King, Ph.D. recounts the cost of this choice in All But My Soul:  Abuse Beyond Control.  I clerked in the Domestic Relations Division of Cook County’s (Chicago) Circuit Court during law school.  Her experiences were typical of most affluent divorces.  The downside of this approach is that it leaves a person vulnerable to continuing abuse for years, and it can be devastating financially.

We need to be less naive about suggesting women in these circumstances “just leave.”  We also need to be more sophisticated as women about our life path and career choices.  We need to be more pragmatic about our life partner choices.  Wife and mother are career choices that don’t come with compensation or severance packages or pension plans.

We need people to be vigilant watchdogs over court proceedings and judicial fitness.  At this point, selection of judges is subject to too much control by the attorneys who have a stake in the outcome of cases.  Voters know very little about judges.  It leads to corruption.

We need committed, qualified attorneys to represent women and children in landmark cases pro bono to set precedent.  Available legal services don’t begin to meet the demand.

We need new laws and court procedures as well as mandatory judicial training on domestic violence.

We need to find a way to introduce prevention into the legal process.  We need stricter monitoring of offenders.  We need tougher gun control laws.

And, we need to benchmark best practices to see what works and what doesn’t work.

The American Bar Association has a domestic violence section.  The Family Violence Prevention Fund works with the National Judicial Institute on Domestic Violence and the National Council of Juvenile and Family Court Judges to train judges.  It’s a good start, but we have a very long way to go.

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49 responses to “Manipulation of the Legal System as an Instrument of Abuse

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  5. Thank you, Michelle, for visiting my site and taking the time to provide feedback. My sense is that many people know instinctively that this is going on, and I thought it was important to let them know they aren’t imagining the abuse of the system.

    Sending hugs,
    Anne Caroline

  6. A note on Becky Beaver. I was a stay @ home mom, nursed my son for 2 years, never left him. I have never drank, smoked or did drugs a day in my life. All I’ve ever wanted was to be a mom. My super wealthy ex-husband hired Becky Beaver before I even knew he was going to divorce me. I lost my son…my life, my reason to even live. I could not fight my ex in court…I sighned a pre-nup before we married so I did not have $$ to fight him. He spent millions on our divorce & has custody of our son…the son I was with every day since birth (my husband was not even home the day I brought my son home from the HOS) Becky had my ex CHANGE the locks on me, empty our bank accounts, I had to live in a homeless shelter. She had my ex do very nasty things….and money does win in divorce cases. I am a broken woman, missing my son. I work as a sample lady making $850 a month & I pay child support to my ex who makes 120 THOUSAND A MONTH (NOT A YEAR) Becky will win at all cost & ruin the lives of children…my son no longer believes in God because he doesn’t get to see me as much as his dad.

  7. Jacqueline, please contact me…I can offer Becky Beaver support…sadly unless you have tons of money to fight her…and even then you will still have an uphill battle, you can kiss your kids goodbye. I’m sorry, my heart hurts for you. Please contact me…I’ve been in your shoes…they feel like concrete :-(

  8. Could you please help with advice on a divorce case facing B.Beaver? Gina, you offered some support to Jacqueline earlier – could I also ask you for advice? Thank you!

  9. Jammy,

    After getting burned horridly by people I attempted to help, I am strictly enforcing my policy of referring visitors to my site to those being PAID to help us. I answer every comment as best I can ~ many comments give me ideas for future posts ~ challenge my thinking ~ surface connections I might not have recognized before.

    Texas is rich with resources which is good because the law in Texas isn’t kind to women. . .especially women who are leaving men with money and power. . .the system is sadly set up to benefit the good ole boys. And, there are many attorneys like Becky Beaver only too happy to take their money to beat up the women they claim they love.

    My suggestion is that you rely on the resources available at the executive level of the Texas coalition ~ I believe they are based in Austin. I have spoken to people there who are remarkably competent and concerned about the women they serve. And, I don’t think it would hurt to ask why they accept donations from an attorney who brags about manipulating the legal system as an instrument of abuse on her website.

    IMHO, the only way to stop attorneys like Becky Beaver is to give them a chill in their quest to climb the social ladder. A cold shoulder at country clubs and benefit galas works wonders on adjusting the attitude of someone with a penchant to abuse power.

    If there are children involved, I strongly urge you to check out the information and resources available at sites like RightsforMothers.com or MamaLiberty.com. There is an organization based in Houston that kicks serious butt on child custody cases ~ especially when children are at risk.

    Today, I am working on an extensive revamping of my website using tools recently available via WordPress. I am going through all of my nearly 250 posts to provide annotated links to them on my pages. One of the pages I will be adding soon is one that deals exclusively with litigation abuse because it is so rampant.

    In the meantime, check out what Vernetta Cockerham and Claudine Dombrowski achieved by packing the courtroom with people wearing purple and white.

    Good luck and God bless,
    Anne Caroline

  10. LEGAL SYSTEM AND ABUSE

    I don’t know what to do anymore; I’m trying desparately to not give up. I just received in the mail a motion to show just cause to modify the parenting plan to his terms. The whole time we were married, we did not associate with his family because of their horrible histories. One of them I knew had a history of alcoholism, and before we were married, while at my husband’s house, got his handgun and attempted to commit suicide, but shot a hole in the waterbed instead. I continued to hear stories of the goings on about his brothers and sisters during our marriage, and never wanted to be around them. I submitted a parenting plan to the judge at the initial custody hearing, and he threw it aside. It contained names of his brothers and sisters whom I wanted limited or no contact with the children. I have three young children. Now, he brought the sister first to pick them up for visitation, and she participated in their supervision at his house. The kids said she was yelling and screaming. She paid them each $1.00 to stay up for 24 hours. Her own grandchild was there, whom my daughter said had a broken arm with a cast on from jumping off a bunkbed; she said she appeared to be little, under the age of 6, the recommended age for bunkbeds. So after that visit I was really uncomfortable. The next visit he brought another one, the worst one, his brother who shot the bed. I didn’t even recognize him, meeting him briefly only once. I asked who he was and he told me, and I felt instant dread for the kids who were still sitting in the car. I said, “no, they can’t go with you,” and he started calling me very foul names; my youngest child who is 7 started crying, and the other two were very scared. I went home, then got onto the state police website and was able to download the arrest and conviction records of both of those people; the sister was convicted of domestic abuse, the brother had six counts of convictions including 2 for assault 4 with domestic violence, one DUII, also disorderly conduct, and a couple other charges and convictions to total 6. I called DHS and reported this the next morning, thinking that the kids would be in danger with these people partaking in their supervision. They took the report, and asked me where the kids were at the time and I told them they were with me, and they said good. But now he is taking me back to court to modify based on this, because I did not let him see them that day. I do not have a lawyer, can’t afford the ones here; legal aid only helps with restraining orders, and no one will tell me what forms I can file and what I can do. I feel so helpless.

  11. Thank you so much for your wonderful article. We need to band together to get changes to the system to remove judicial discretion. I think we need federal laws for divorce, making retirement monies locked away from the hands of divorce attorneys, and remove judicial discretion from the equation due to pervasive gender bias. Anyone know who can help is figure out how to get a class action lawsuit going?

  12. JB,

    You might be interested in reading All But My Soul: Abuse Beyond Control by Jeanne I. King, Ph.D. She’s a psychologist who was married to an OB/GYN. They lived on the North Shore, and she wote about the litigation abuse she experienced in the Courts of Cook County.

    Since this is where I clerked during law school, I’m quite familiar with how many attorneys frequently walk away with a couple’s assets. I had a front row seat during the trial of Head v. Head which is where the attorneys “wrote the book” on manipulation of the legal system as an instrument of abuse.

    I’m also exceedingly familiar with the judicial corruption ~ the judge I clerked for (Rosin) blew his brains out the night before he was to be indicted in Operation Greylord.

    While I’m not up to speed on class action litigation, I don’t think this avenue will bring you the satisfaction you seek. Efforts to clean up the court system are in their infancy, and I’m getting the sense that it is more an intellectual exercise than determination to do the required heavy lifting.

    I am impressed with the work of the American Mothers Political Party as well as L.Y. Marlow’s Saving Promise movement. She wrote Color Me Butterfly and is working to create a survivors’ network similar to the Susan G. Komen Foundation for breast cancer survivors. She’ll be at Old Orchard on October 16 from 11:00 until 4:00 for a survivors rally.

    BTW, I lived in Wilmette before I went to law school.

    Thanks for visiting, JB, and leaving a comment.

    Sending hugs,
    Anne Caroline

  13. Money is the root of all evil. When Texas Lawyers who are like Ms. Beaver and John Barrett and use their legal abilitiies to outspend, outsource, create, defame, and call themselves childrens advocates for the parent who has a history of abuse but very wealthy, are compared to what I call OJ Simpson advocates. The child lives in fear with the other parent while the defender with no comparable resources is forced to suffer consequences of failure to the child, depression, and loss of hope in the system. I believe if there is history of violence in the parents past who hires these high end attorneys, then why not play fair by the govt. requesting the attorneys hired to have the pay for comparable council up front. If they are SO CONCERNED ABOUT THE CHILD, and with their understandable wealth, they should feel no fear in a fair fight. Or I believe a class action suit needs to begin. I myself plan on looking for any parent who has lost their child due to Ms. Becky Beaver and some of her unethical practices.
    If your out there, let me know. If you are a liason of ms. beaver, I will find out so be careful. No more, means no more.
    I am tired of this attorneys sick antics and trying to make herself look like she is all the about the children.
    I have met one person who took down all pictures of their children for Ms. Beaver has friends in the system who are “Child Therapists” and accused this person of molesting his sick child in a wheelchair that can barely talk.
    Bullshit.
    This is one of a 10 people I have met anonysmosly and heard these stories.
    Enough!
    I am doing my research even with her sealed files to seek out what is poor ethics and defamation.
    Want to be a hero, speak up, call legislators who advocate rights for children and expensive attorneys who play with peoples lives.
    If you are the one hiring her or other like her. Shame on you for thinking about only lining you pockets. You are lining them with the welfare of the children you protect.

    There!

    Phew, that feels better.

    Anne, its time to take to our power back.

    In Texas, please look at Valinda Bolton and Patrick Rose. Both these legistlators are against the abuse of MAD DADS and their use of high powered attorneys to win. Vote for these people.

    While your at Ms. Beavers picture, listen to Untouchable, by the band “Garbage”. All to simpatico.

    BIG KISSES WOMEN.

  14. Sorry, but DV is about control. Not about gender. I got horror stories and I’ve seen exactly what happens in the courts — there is an assigned victim and an assigned perpetrator and no amount of money can buy it any other way. There’s money and more money to be had and it’s getting harsh and scary. The assigned victim women. The assigned perpetrator men. It does not matter who did what. It only matters your gender. I witnessed the system destroy a perfectly good life because he was male. I saw them turn their backs on the truth and not even bother with listening. They didn’t listen to either side.. They saw a man and a woman case closed! Not once did it occur it could have been the other way. The way I see it now, victim the man and the woman, the perpetrator the system.

  15. Dear Anne,

    Came across some information to share if you feel comfortable with it. There is a woman named Liz Goldreyer.
    lizgolreyer.com. She is another tough cookie like you in that she is dong investigations into the court corruption with regards to Family Law.

    CASH for kids is one of the things she was very familiar with and now the Fathers RIghts Initiatives and govt. bodies cashing in on it.

    United we stand. Divided we fall.

    Hope this is helpful

  16. I am currently going through a divorce and I am stunned at the level of ignorance of the law, the freedom and nerve of judges, lawyers, GAL’s and Custody Evaluators to do what they please and the sheer torture that children are put through without any regard for what is in their best interest.
    They get away with this because no one is watching them and holding them accountable. This is a great program. Where do people go to sign up?

  17. Currently our government is worse than the Mafia. From what I am learning we don’t really elect our government officials. It’s all about positioning parties and certain candidates in to place as they look at the economy, situations with other countries and war, our trade outs. Just crazy. This is from people who worked intelligence, one friend who worked internal affairs, and a couple of judges. Everyone has to keep there score card looking good, so instead of justice, they find a way to share cases, offer kickbacks, and even blackmail. I looked up the Lawyers Oath for when the pass the bar exam. It says. “We will do the best for our clients ” or as stated in Texas Code…#(3) (discharge the attorney’s duty to his client to the best of the attorney’s ability.)
    That is what’s on the Texas State Bar Website. Ignoring upholding the Constitution of the U.S.
    You have to play smarter than an attorney. If it was not for Ann’s site I would not even pay attention to the whole process. Now I have a couple of lawyers getting pissed because I bring up Texas Family Codes and question why they are not being followed. It is hard right now due to the father rights inititatives and money set aside for payment to judges, and the want those attorneys in their courtroom. Be smart. Look up codes. Read “the intellectual blog” on how to break the woman down so you don’t have pay child support and get full custody of the child. I went through all of that after what was suppose to be a felony crime with the assault, got listed as a misdemeanor. Gotta be proactive. They will rape you. If I had the functions I would go pro se and open up a can of worms. So, you might want to grab your inner bitch and read the laws for your and your childrens protection.
    P.S. Be careful of Rick Perry. His balls right now are being held in a tight squeeze for his wife hired the same lawyer my ex has for a potential divorce 2 years ago. With his decision to run, it has been put off, and he ignores the pleas of many people asking for help with the corruption.
    Go for it. Do it for your children. The media does not care, and policy analysts are too afraid to make a move.

  18. Good Morning, My name is Jackie and I am new to your group I have lived all my life in Virginia until 2yrs
    ago, when I was actually forced by stress and feeling like I was
    losing my mind! My 18yr old daughter had a baby in 2005 and abandoned this baby at birth and his father is unknown. I stepped up and took over and raised the child since birth like I guess any other grandparent would do. Almost a year later my supposingly devoted friend, husband of 23yrs I found out thru my family and others that worked at the same plant came and told me of an affair he was having, he started coming home late, would stay gone 2 or 3 days at a time when I confronted him he first lied, however I finally filed for divorce, now keep in mind this lil man I still had even though every one had walked out on us.

    I continued working at our hospital which I was employed for 22yrs thru this all, although I was shell shocked, so in March 2009, I come home from work only to find a supeona on door after 4yrs later and my daughter had never been active in his life
    she had petitioned the court now she wanted her child back. I have been thru now 2 attorney the first one I fired after I found out they were all in kahoots together and he lied about his fees he tried to charge, and then to make a long story short hired another lawyer now this one charges 250.00 an hour, well after a couple trips to J&D courts my daughter appeals now and we are moved to circuit court where we do an entire 360. We walk into court and now it has gone from just her visitation to immediately “Ya;ll understand why we are here today to get this transition underway” Excuse me? I cannot elaborate on how many false allegations she got by with! She had real estate “the home is her husband mothers” She had a stable job she stated fulltime (8-1) 4 days a week, back where I come from and was raised that was part time, she was working on her ged Really that was order by the courts when she was in high school to get her off her truancy charges, still she hasn’t obtained that ged never could hold a job. She had past charges where she arrested on her job when the baby was only 3months old for embezzlement.
    She had been in and out of 2 crack houses even when the baby was an infant. When I had my hysterectomy in 2009 and gallbladder surgery I got the family together to make sure the baby was going to have adequate amount of care and properly taking care of. “Now keep in mind, this is her weekend but she stated when I ask her to help out” That aint goin to happen, you expect everyone to put the life on hold to cater to your f***** a&& this is her child for crying out loud, she only took him for a couple hours and I told her this is your weekend if front of him she stated” You better be f***** glad I am taking him at all.” The courts tried to make us look like we where crap, I had met a fella in 2007 and dated for 2 and half years when he finally told me to order the trucks I will pay to get you the hell out of there, they are going to kill you and I remarried and moved to Maryland 4hours away, had to quit my job and leave everyone behind. My husband has his own business and house with 20acres and they always put my husband on the stand and questioned if he could take care of us until I could get stabilized and find a job he stated yes and he did. I had my hysterectomy in 2009 and right after my surgery with 32 staples going across “I was told from my ex and my daughter” if you can walk you can take care of Christopher and I did only to end up with blood clot in my right leg,
    After several trips to court We found out on thanksgiving the judge was reuniting them back together on Christmas, Christmas eve to be exact early part of that day so we counted down our last days to our last minutes before we had to give him up the tears we all shared and Christopher being 5 and half screaming and crying and telling me and my husband “mommy don’t let Judge take me away” I had him in counseling and our last week was hell and numerous trips back and forth to counseling Christopher trying to run out in front of a car at our grocery store Christopher stated to kill himself so he wouldnt have to go, to trying to jump off 2nd floor of counseling to kill himself to keep from going and the grand finale he took scissors and scalped himself all the way back where my stepdaughter a hair dresser had to end up shaving his head, Christopher last night at counseling he opened up to his counselor and told her how my daughters husband puts a pillow of over his face and he told her how he told me and my husband “Mommy and Honey I scream and beg for him to let up and he will not let up” to now just recently her husband gave him a super wedgie and caused his recctum to start bleeding and then swingin him around the room.
    When we arrived here in Maryland I took him to the dentist I was concerned with a couple discoloration spots on his front teeth he had dental surgery down at Shady Grove on his front teeth in which my daughter was totally against and said it was f***** ridiculous it was only his baby teeth wrong also 12 yr molars in which he would have to around 12yrs of age, now less than a year later Labor Day 2010 he comes back after visitation with one of his front teeth knocked out while he ws with her four wheel drive drinkin buddies and then on Easter when we got to see him and he came up his mouth had stitches, and recently July 2011 he comes up where he front teeth had been knocked out again with her four wheel drive buddies and they both stated there was 2 ropes hanging down but between the two was a car they had to swing from one rope over top the car to the next rope needless to say Christopher never made it to the second rope and hit the car”
    Maryland cps contacted Va in reference to the pillow incident Va closed and found no reason to keep it open, now we went to court recently June 17th and now the judge (who I swear was biased along with GAL) stated it has been 180 days and outside his jurisdition and he is sending it back to J&D where it originated but said his orders he put in place are still active and are to be followed thru, the GAL states Christopher has not been down there long enough please, also the orders states his school progress to be shared really we ask last year and she said he is doing great and loves his school only to have my lawyer confront the GAL in court after Christopher told us my daughter told him he failed because he was bad and stupid and it was our fault (mine and my husband) because we wanted to see him all the time(we had only been able to see him) twice since he was taken not only on Christmas Eve but also marked the anniversary of my fathers death no only one loss but now 2 to endure and then the only thing I had to cling to my husband yes I had give him up to he had to drive the 5hours round trip to meet her so while everyone was surrounded by family I was enduring another loss and no one at Christmas,
    I cannot put this behind me and first and foremost let me elaborate I never raised this child to believe I was his mother I told him she was his biological mother and how I came along when she left him which she denies, and now actually at 6yrs of age he plays her games better than she does, when he is around her and her husband they are to be called mommy and daddy but as soon as he gets away from it is back to Chassidy and her husband JT, and me and my husband have always been mommy or momma and my husband always has been Honey, the school and daycare here ate this up, I told them he has been in his life since he was 2yrs of age, recently when my youngest daughter got him she said he was really upset and she ask him what was wrong and what happened Christopher stated I am sick and tired of everyone telling me Chassidy is my mother she is not my mother she is not the one who raised me feed me and took care of me, I ask and pleaded with my attorney not to let them do this to me last year especially at Christmas and having to endure another loss he stated it is not a loss and it is not healthy looking at it like this “EXCUSE me what do you call it” he stated to work it out with my daughter if Christmas was not good and I said there is no reasoning with her my attorney stated to go plan on the next weekend New Years getting him only to get a call from my daughter she would not be meeting us on New Years it had only been a week into this transition and it was not necessary,
    I had always had an open door policy day or night but now we are on very strict guideline he is put to bed at 6:50pm at night, she shaved him bald and sent him back to school on the first day this year. I sent my useless attorney letters along with 500.00 and pictures not to get no reply and bill me for 7500.00 for what I don’t know I could have done everything he has done,,, these are not regular visitation everyone is breakin down and Christopher is pleading down send him back why can’t he move back up her with his real family and his real home and go back to his real school “Oakdale Elementary” in which he attended for 2 and half years in which they where great and sincere and comforting our final days they had Christmas gifts galore wrapped and packaged for him, we all where living our final days and hours down to the last,
    Now supposingly if Circuit Courts orders are to be followed and active why is Christopher not recieving counseling and supposingly her attorney was quick to defend and have the judge and GAL agree she had met every burden of proof and change of circumstance stable job and home and can afford him really she is no longer working told me the other night they got Christopher 2 outfits for school but he needs a pair of shoes and winter coat, I guess now she is finding out her meesly 169.00 a month does even begin cutting in to raise a child, My husband stated the picture she sent us on his first day of school was very disturbing where she shaved him bald and he looks like a little cancer child and malnourished”
    I would like to know is there the little bit of hope we can do anything else or why do they make us both go thru the grief and torture, School and therapist have already said who would ever think of splitting us up after 5 and half years where he never had a want or need, and she really didn’t want him she only wanted to hurt me, she is always trying to find someone to pawn him off on, his own grandpa my ex will not come see him and will not let him stay overnight, Christopher stated last time everytime he calls his papa to see if he can come over it is no no no, and everytime he calls his Auntie she would have to find a place for them to stay, but every time when he calls momma and honey it is yes yes yes, so he said nobody wants me at there house
    My daughter is biological mother is living in a fairytale life where she is lying to him on everything the reason he came to her house is we didn’t love him anymore and want him here and her husband is daddy, all of her four wheel drive buddies is his aunt and uncles, and he is not allowed around his immediate family, please help I know this is alot……but according to my daughter and the schedule she has come up with we are about to hit a rewind of last year and again she states I can have him dec 16-24, I would have to give him back again on Christmas eve, so she is going again to have christmas eve, Christmas day New years eve and day and I dont get to see him anymore to Jan 16th and this is fair when I told her what she did last year not only on Christmas but the anniversary of my father death she said I didn’t call to argue I will get him this Christmas and you can have him the next. The way I look at this is “We didn’t do mom in last year let’s hit Rewind and give it one more shot” I have told my attorney in the past two letters I have sent I cannot and will not have another year like last year and still I get no response please help” Yes since I had to give up a child in which all the therapists and even pastor stated what type of daughter would do this type of thing to her mother and by alldo respects he was your baby and you was his mother, and splitting you to up after 5 and half years would be detrimental on both of you, I continue with my grieving and pray often for relief of bitterness and anger but have went down hill since then, actually have genetic clotting disorder with continous clots, gastritis and constant nausea, had emergency surg May 25 due to ovarian cyst that had ruptured.
    I have heard from different support groups that I was more than just a grandparent I was actually a de facto parent and had the same rights in the courtroom, and they could not remove him unless there was legitimate cause or physical harm since I have him for 5 and a half yrs and since birth. I have every reason to believe my rights have been violated I actually consulted with another attorney in Va who was going to charge a flat 5000.00 fee I wish I had my hands on this one, he said in a free initial phone consultation I think you only deserve to know the honest truth and which I overly thanked him, he said I was to suppose to have a transcriptionist in that courtroom WHATT!!! No never no reporter or nothing he said I had been slammed sideways and he would have to go back and redo everything the way it should have been done the first time.
    I honestly feel this was a custody scam and payoff, my second attorney first asked me to obtain all the documents from the first one who I fired and I did and delivered ok then why would he have to contact him for any reason at all (to pick up where that one left off) and now to tell me this was not a loss it was not healthy for any of us to look at it like this, I am not use to an empty place at the table or a bedroom to walk past(in which I have to keep the door shut and locked) and the supposingly final case in circuit court I ask him minutes before walking in If you see us going South in the courtroom do you have a Plan B in effect, and looked up right at me and said that right there is something I dont want you to ask me! I could have lost it then! and then to bill me 7500.00 dollars for what, Now sending 400.00 to 500.00 dollars every payday along with update and pictures and he will not respond. I know they are not losing any sleep and everytime before we went in he would constantly tell me we have to get u to focus, I finally told him no you need to focus (me focus on what gettin ready to get another screwing) please I lost all the way around.
    I am still getting calls from his pediatric dentist here where he was having cleanings routinely in reference to him being passed due, He is over 223 miles from me and is not getting his teeth taken care and his entire needs met like they were here. I will also try to copy the letter at Christmas I left for him in our final hours

    December 22, 2010
     
    To my Dearest Christopher (Monkeyd)
    We are about to venture into a dark place to turn back
    the pages of your life, it will be a sorrowful journey full of pain
    looking into the inner core of what happened, somehow trying
    to explain it to you. I pray what we about to do will be honest and
    clear. As I look around the house at all the legal documents, pictures
    and letters of comfort. I can only hope that someday you might be able
    to return to a place in your mind that was your real home and that
    tells you “mommy and Honey”you would refer sometimes to him as
    daddy (and the only real dad )you have ever known, loved me.
    They did everything they could to make me try to understand that I
    was an important person that I was an individual and not a piece of
    property and I was worth fighting for! As I set back recollecting our
    last final hours together counting down the hours and seconds and
    living like it was our last final hours with you, and remembering our
    last conversations and blowing each other “pinkie” kisses and
    promises. And your final words was ” I will never forget you Mommy”
    and questioning over and over up to the present why do you have to
    go and don’t let Judge take me away from you, it was never our decision
    to let you go no matter how much you were told “We didn’t love you
    anymore and didn’t want you to live here anymore” This was never
    true! We love and miss you deeply.
    God Bless my Lil Monkey D and God Bless your heart and soul!
    I pray everyday and night God will place his arms of protection
    and shield around you day and night, my Army of Angels protect you
    and you are my sunshine you would always sing it back and say
    Shunshine and please don’t take my Sunshine away! and rise and
    shine sunshine.!
    We miss you and love you sooo much,
    with all our love Mommy and Honey

    December 22, 2010
     
    To my Dearest Christopher (Monkeyd)
    We are about to venture into a dark place to turn back
    the pages of your life, it will be a sorrowful journey full of pain
    looking into the inner core of what happened, somehow trying
    to explain it to you. I pray what we about to do will be honest and
    clear. As I look around the house at all the legal documents, pictures
    and letters of comfort. I can only hope that someday you might be able
    to return to a place in your mind that was your real home and that
    tells you “mommy and Honey”you would refer sometimes to him as
    daddy (and the only real dad )you have ever known, loved me.
    They did everything they could to make me try to understand that I
    was an important person that I was an individual and not a piece of
    property and I was worth fighting for! As I set back recollecting our
    last final hours together counting down the hours and seconds and
    living like it was our last final hours with you, and remembering our
    last conversations and blowing each other “pinkie” kisses and
    promises. And your final words was ” I will never forget you Mommy”
    and questioning over and over up to the present why do you have to
    go and don’t let Judge take me away from you, it was never our decision
    to let you go no matter how much you were told “We didn’t love you
    anymore and didn’t want you to live here anymore” This was never
    true! We love and miss you deeply.
    God Bless my Lil Monkey D and God Bless your heart and soul!
    I pray everyday and night God will place his arms of protection
    and shield around you day and night, my Army of Angels protect you
    and you are my sunshine you would always sing it back and say
    Shunshine and please don’t take my Sunshine away! and rise and
    shine sunshine.!
    We miss you and love you sooo much,
    with all our love Mommy and Honey

    I want to express my deepest appreciation to all ya’ll taking your time to listen and read my pleadings and I am open for any additional advice or helpful information..
    God Bless you all and my prayers is for each and everyone to oneday have our babies back to there Real Home and where they belong…
    Yours Truly,
    Jackie

  19. Ms Drake
    How can a lay person help raise awareness about this issue? I am an OB/GYN. My ex is an attorney who knows how to use the legal system to abuse me by taking me back to court over and over. What I have spent in legal fees over the years would have paid for college for at least two of my children. I have no idea how women without access to money even begin to deal with this type of abuse. I thought I was alone. I also believed that if I just perservered justice would be served. I wish someone had told me 10 years ago that the courts are not about justice because then I would have made some very different decisions. How can I help educate other women about this before they spend their life savings fighting for something that they will never get in the court system?
    Laura

  20. Well, I am putting myself on a line. I got a package that Anne Drake suggested from National Coucil of Juvenile and Family Court Judges on PAS, Legislative Updates, Studies, etc… The person who sent it to me is a Policy Analyst. With the package was her card and contact information. I visitied with her on the phone a few times, and since she is not a lawyer, she could not advise me, but instead, listened, and had me email her the what the power of money and relationship in the courts has done to my daughter and me. I say. Call her too. The more data and insite, the better to influence legislators. PAM RUSSELL – 775-327-5152. The money attorneys make are from continuances, relationships with the courts, and have influence and power. No, I can’t do anything anymore for my ex will always outspend me and they ruined my life by proxy of creating information, and defamation. And they love it. Next time your ex files suit. Try this. Ask for a jury trial and that you will be pro se. If you are the respondent, you are entitled. And this will cost your ex, a lot of money. And you don’t have to rely on the bias of a judge.
    Let me know if this is Ok Drake.

  21. Dr. Kenny,

    Sadly, too many attorneys look at a high-income couple like you and your ex as ATMs. They intentionally manipulate their clients to stoke the natural animosity in a divorcing couple’s relationship to keep the litigation going and the fees flowing into firm coffers.

    In addition, there is the pit bull abuser dynamic that manifests as parental alienation syndrome (PAS). PAS is junk science that many naive, uninformed judges buy.

    So, my first suggestion to you is to order or download the judicial guide that is featured on the side column of my web site. It’s free. It is a respectful way to suggest to the judge in your case that he/she needs to get educated on manipulation of the legal system as an instrument of abuse.

    You might be interested in Jeanne I. King’s book All But My Soul. She’s a psychologist who was married to an OB/GYN in Chicago. I knew many of the players in her story.

    My next suggestion is that you do what I have done. Start a blog. The space on this issue is wide open and in desperate need of someone with your education and experience to empower women who lack your financial resources. The Rights for Mothers blog was phenomenal, but the author was persuaded to take it down by her fellow PAS mothers who IMHO would rather raise “poor me control drama” hell than seek viable solutions.

    If this is of interest to you, I can e-mail you contact information for people who are established in this field and who are making a difference.

    My last suggestion would be for you to work within your profession to educate your peers.

    I want to applaud your desire to pay it forward, and I pray that karma blesses you with peace in your life.

    Best wishes,
    Caroline

  22. My ex-husband stood in our driveway and screamed at me at the top of his lungs that he was going to “kill” me though the courts. Our children were standing in the driveway when this happened. He has even sued our oldest daughter when she was nine to go to the Texas Youth Commission if she does not attend visitation. This lawsuit has been open for the past two years. She is an honor roll student, second chair violist in GDYO, and a community volunteer. I am a mother who has run out of time and who has almost constant flashbacks of the abuse when I hear from or am near my ex. They are getting worse and not better. My daughter is going to have to go with her abuser (even though he sprained her back) and I know he will not rest for anything except all control of the children. The courts (322nd District Court in Tarrant County) are just sitting back and allowing this. They don’t even know about how well rounded my daughter is and how much she has achieved, she is just another case sitting on a docket with the end result being that she MUST go with her abuser, and with me being sued to death.

  23. The burden of forgetting is on the abused. We are the ones that are physically and emotionally violated, and yet we are required to keep our composure and even play nice towards our abuser. We are force-fed daily interactions with someone who smirks at our every sign of weakness, denies or minimalizes HIS actions which have resulted in OUR trauma, and uses the basic “fight or flight” reactions that flood our systems every time we see him to destroy us through the courts. PLEASE STOP FORCE-FEEDING US OUR ABUSERS!!

  24. My heart goes out to those women who are struggling with an abusive ex- and the courts. I am a physician, who is fortunate enough to have the financial resources to take my deadbeat, lawyer, ex-husband to court. But I too found out the expensive way that the courts don’t give a damn about me or my children and particularly when your ex- is one of the “good old boys” he can stop paying child support with absolutely no repercussions. I have decided to stop going to court because it is only making the lawyers rich and costing me precious time and money that I would rather spend on more productive pursuits. I do however have a deep appreciation for how aweful this must be for women who are trying not to just get the ex- to pay child support, as I was, but who are fighting for their children’s very lives. My thoughts and prayers are with all of you. I hope to God that somehow this will change and I am willing to do what ever I can toward that end.

  25. Thank you Laura for the caring response, and I am sorry for both you and your family for having to endure the world of Child Trafficking in our U.S. Justice System. I first visited with Ms. Drake in 2010 regarding my case. When I read other womens stories and the extent the ex would go to continue out a personal vendetta with lawyers. I heard of mothers sleeping in cars, not seeing children, being charged child support to millionaires while they pay for supervised visits, etc… And I never thought I would be one. I have now met sooo many. If you get to see your children, you are doing much better than most, but the legal fight could cost you not only monetarily but your health, and emotional stability. After 3 years, I am not the same, and because my ex who tells everyone he never wanted the child in the first place when we were married, has total control of her, and I have NO contact due to games I can not legally afford to fight, or emotionally. I have had to resign to regaining inner self and strength. There are articles on A.A.R.V.A.R.K. from Cornell University regarding the this growing dilemma. Ann said it strait. It’s not your attorneys. It’s the judges. You must research relationships between councel and tax records to judges. Don’t let it kill you as I let it, but make a statement. Were a shirt with a picture of your child with a circle and slash that states. “NOT FOR SALE”. Hell, What are they gonna do, ask where they can get one. Good luck my friend, We will win. For our childrens sake and women who are constantly abused by money and power.
    Thank you Ms. Drake again for the power of your wisdom

  26. Everytime I read these stories it seems to be based on women being abused by men, not so in my husbands case. His ex-wife is a paralegal in the Cook County Court System for over 22 years. She has used her position to torment him with over 200 court dates and is still fighting him in court for insurance coverage and his daughters are 24 & 25. She has never had to pay a penny for her lawyers (she always uses her employer), she knows how to work the system and is very abusive about it. It just makes me mad that the courts allow her unlimited access and her actions are financially destroying him but they are also costing the taxpayers of Illinois a lot of money. The Judge is this case knows her well and doesn’t do anything to stop her – its sickening! I don’t know how to handle it.

  27. What can I do about my wife who lied on a police report to have me arrested. I sat in jail for 102 days. My proof is her 911 call she made. She has ruined my life. Out of guilt, she has done everything except tell the important people in my life that she just blatently lied on the report. I have tried to protect her and just accept what has happened, but find I just can’t hide the truth. She must understand the gravity of what she did.

  28. why always women are portrayed as weak, helpless creature? are women really that? it is a stereotype and not truth. there are many women who abuse their husband. go get a google search and you will find cases where wife abuses husbands.

  29. I left my husband in 2010 because I was afraid of him because he was abusing me in front of my daughter. My daughter and me went to live with my son so my husband and is unethical lawyer told many lies about me and how I was crazy and a my daughter was in danger with me. During the divorce proceedings I had no choice but too move in with him so I could be with my daughter who didnt want to live with him alone. He still pushed the courts to give him a divorce even though we had been living together again for several months. I lost custody of my daughter. He uses my daughter and the fact he was given the home against me in his sick game of emotional abuse and power. Over two years later my daughter and I are still living with him and his cycle of abuse. There really is too many details of our story to tell just on this page it is a horrid example of an abuser using the court system to control his victim. Needless to say I am going to college to become a lawyer. I want to be the voice for those who cannot otherwise speak for themselves, I never want another abused woman or child to go through what we have just because they cant afford an attorney.

  30. I live in VA and the system is the same. My ex, after four years of divorce that was amicable, decided to be nasty and take me back to court for custody. I was in Nursing school at the time. He used his parents money and illegally dug up dirt that would destroy me in court. Of course he hired the unethical lawyer that manipulated the GAL and managed to get the judge she liked on the court case. The system is broken. I have not seen my children in almost a year. My ex got me six months of jail time for contempt of court (suspended if I don’t mess up). The GAL never spoke to me and claimed to have never received documents that were certified mail to her office… so I have a signature that shows she received them. I too have had to find myself again. I feel like a part of me has been ripped away. My ex was an absentee father but once he remarried the wheels starting turning on how to destroy me and what I have worked hard for in my life. In the end, the children suffer. The three ringed circus called the judicial system destroys their lives and creates an environment of animosity. I hope someday my children understand why I had to walk away… drowning financially, emotionally, and mentally… I saw the toll it was having on the children to be forced to choose which parent. I have been reduced to white trash in my children’s eyes because of my ex. With hopes of a future when they turn 18, that is what keeps me going.

  31. Wow…I thought I had it bad. I’m fighting against the money-based court system too via Barrett and Coble, taking me to court by stoking the fires of hate between me and my ex. I really hope she finds another guy to re-focus her life on rather than sueing me for not picking up my daughter early enough, when I’ve asked for months, to allow me to do so. I’m going back to court because she wants a GAL and to have me psycho evaled. I’m hoping for the best and praying I’ll get a modification for more time with my daughter.

    Anyone know of a good lawyer that can hold up to Beaver or Barrett?

    Opposing counsel are B&B, not mine. FYI.

  32. Women and Domestic Violence is not about weak, unstable, people. The percentage of men physically, emotionally, verbally, abusing the women in their lives far outweighs women abusing men. I know it happens for my stepfather who was an abuser to us kids growing up now is having the crap beat out of him by a large woman. I do not advocate this at all. And after all of the crazy things I am going through now with Courts in Texas against “best interest of children” by choosing a parent that has more money, political points in our legislature, or like the case for Kelly Rutherford where the judge “just did not like her” (quote Glenn Sacks). Then these judges are not about the welfare of any of us. As far as Beaver and Barrett. Welp. 1. The rule of the game is make sure you and your ex HATE each other. I have seen a friend of mine who was a father that Ms. Beaver used her usual troup of signed on therapists to create any story. He was accused of raping his daughter who is a parapalegic. SOmething the mother never believed in until her hired guns help anchor the story. Best bet for your childrens sake. Tell the State you want a mediator to help create a family plan so that the child is not broken by a very brutal and non forgiving set of lawyers. They have a network. You wont win. But, there time is coming. Children should be more important that all the facade. And they will delay, delay, run you out of money. Thats her mojo. Along with her court connects. She is dirty law. And I feel sorry for any child who has an intentionally destructive person to a childs welfare while serving on all the board for Child Advocate Agencies. Alas. If you really love your child. Tell your ex that you want to do whats in their best interest and not spending money on the lawyers who are only interested in money. Good luck

  33. Dear Anne, I can’t thank you enough for this article!
    We need to have a courage to stand up for our-self. We also need to be more like men in some ways. For example, they back up each other, they would even lie for each other. It’s not like that with women. We have to learn to cover each others back. I’ve been in and out of court for 3.5 years now for protective orders, divorce, custody. Still fighting for my child. My ex has his boss and coworkers on the witness stand lying for him in court. I have a hard time getting anyone telling even truth for me because women are scared. PLEASE DO NOT SIT BACK AND ACCEPT THE VICTIM ROLE!!! Be proactive, persistent, never give up. Eye for an eye, if you will. I had a psychologist appointed by court fired because she aligned with my ex and lied in court. She is about to loose her license. I filed complaints against school because they wouldn’t give me even report cards. I had to do it over and over, but I got the results I needed. It is very important to communicate your problems to people. Most of them wouldn’t give a damn, but there will somebody who does and will be willing to help you. Stay strong, have a clear goal in mind, and you will succeed!

  34. Very, very interesting. I’ve been in a 7 year divorce battle, now dealing with bankruptcy filed by my husband who already has had 8 lawyers with this one. Iv’e been in all of these women’s shoes regarding “custody war”. I don’t see yet my end but would love to help others in my situation. I am fed up with the judicial system!

  35. I would be open to.talking to.anyone who is interested in sharing. I know I take a chance of being set up by my ex’s lawyers or people affiliated with him or the firms. I have been told I have a “gag” order. But according to the ACLU. Unless there has been an exchange of money. Freedom of Speech is still my in rights. With another call from CPS where the investigator is a level 3. I am blocked from all the information on what’s going on. I believe he has put an injunction on my eldest who is close to him. And I was verbally told over speaker phone I am not.to.contact her or speak of my youngest daughter Brooklyn again. Really. I see why Drake had to step back from being a sounding board and trying to find help for others after enduring what I understand to be the complete definition of abuse by the person she trusted was her love but used his connections to protect him. Its a big issue in Texas. Watch Sarah Slamen in the Texas Court House and her honorable confrontation. Then her interview with Lawrence O’Donnell and Bill.Maher. These people are our new hope. But have to remain in hiding due to her amazing knowledge and intention to bring it out. Costadura66@gmail.com I’m tired from loss, grief of no one stepping up for Brooklyn. And my ex having more money that prevents not protects ‘Law” Becky Beaver and people who associate with her. Are not honorable. None. Her connections only help more money go into a.government who wants to eliminate the “weak ” “poor” etc. Honor is stepping up to truth.

  36. It appears that fathers who manipulate the legal system as an instrument of abuse have found this site and are leaving comments to further their cause.

    Their comments will be deleted.

  37. I find it so outrageous that father’s scream “victim of accusations”. As a mom it would be “sick” to make allegations and have your child challenged legally.

    Studies show false allegations are only 5 to 10%. When you truly believe abuse is happening to your child, you get sick from fear of the repercussions once you make a complaint. For from there out protecting them is out of your hands.

    A judge in Houston Texas went on the news to share how Judges are taught to ignore women claiming abuse. YouTube her testimony.

    A father that hires lawyers to do anything to 1. Get full custody, and total control where mom has no recourse or rights. & 2. Does EVERYTHING POSSIBLE to prevent a relationship between the mother and child. Including ignoring phone calls, or the orders. Really should be questioned.

    So should the legal community that contribute to the obvious.

    I know molestors get more visitations than I do.

    I have lost faith in a system full of incest.

    There is some light of hope.

    Corruption in the courts and politics are finally a national focus.

    And then. Maybe lawsuits for malicious intent with tort reform.

  38. I’ve been trying to get divorce for 3 years now and on my second attorney with no prevails. my ex refuses to sign the divorce keeps making changes and than begged me to finish the parenting plan saying once i signed the divorce would be finalized. that didn’t happen he keeps amending it and i was a stay at home mom for 7 years. we have 2 boys 7 and 2 but the abuse and cheating was horrible but like other women i didn’t want my kids to suffer with this awful man. he never spent time at home and continues to roam the streets when he has the boys because he has a full time nanny. he claims he makes no money but drives around in a ferrari has floor tickets to basketball games gamble and continue living his life style… i have gone back to school and trying to make ends meet, but with this constant changes court and attorneys are expensive. the abusive is horrible. my boys cry hysterical when they have to go with him and he doesn’t care. when the boys are with me he calls constantly and harass the boys but if we don’t call back he claims i am trying to withhold a relationship they should have. but when boys are with him and they want to call me… he never lets them. so my older son secretly sends me emails and tells his dad he is playing games. its horrible

  39. Since this posting began I’m 2010. I have had learn the hard way about money and court Corruption.
    A month ago, my mom called to get my youngest daughters phone number after he said. “I’VE never tried to keep them from talking.
    I have the last contact on texts after she explained she couldn’t talk on phone.
    Her text was “I feel suicidal “. “He wont take me to the doctor for help”!
    Others have sent me anonymous emails with concern for a child that is being punished, as am I, for asking for help from him.

  40. Continued.
    There are a lot of people aware of my daughters need for help.
    My ex found them out and placed injunctions on them. Hell. He and his lawyer placed injunctions on anyone and everyone. Testimony against me where made by the same people who knows the abusive nature of my ex.
    My statement to.all.of them.
    My daughters life is in your hands.
    If I get the investigation I want.
    PERJURY.
    JAIL
    LAWSUITS
    AND EXPOSURE.

  41. Typical for women to claim the victim card. Men can be victims also. I’m so sick and tired of the way women manipulate EVERYTHING depending on what their own needs are for that particular moment. I have found that just about everything that women do involves some sort of trickery ; batting her eyes to get…..whatever. crying to get……whatever. flirting to get……whatever. ……there is a pattern here…. the interesting thing is that like 99% (if not 100%) of men know and agree, where as 100% of women KNOW, but don’t agree that it is what they do. They manipulate this as well.
    You want equality, but refuse to be equally blamed, thought of, treated, looked at…………the list goes on and on……and on some more…
    Bottom line is :
    Women are not equal to men.
    (“Oh yes we are equal, equal, equal, EQUAL!!”)
    – Any woman
    Ok ladies……
    Are men equal to women?
    NO.
    I rest my case.

  42. My ex husband was mentally, emotionally and sexually abusive to me for 10 years of our 16 year marriage. 7 years ago we divorced, I gave. Him everything even our 3 children. He has his mother and fathers money, he gets ss disability for something he don’t even have and has been using legal harrasment to keep me from my children. I don’t have money for attorneys, and my children are all nearing 18 and he’s afraid to loose them so he’s trying to get me imprisoned on stupid ass charges so the kids won’t leave him! I’m on the verge of an emotional meltdown! What can I do? He has been dragging me to court repededly for 7 damned years.

  43. Jennifer,

    My heart breaks to hear that your ex is so evil and probably a spoiled brat who needs to grow the hell up. A lot of people are sadly walking in our shoes. When I first read your comment, I didn’t have a clue how to respond. Ironically, I decided to clean my apartment for my own self-care and found an excellent article written by fellow survivor Martha Beck: “You Can See Clearly Now” in Oprah’s magazine, January, 2012, pages 37-9 (http://www.oprah.com/spirit/How-to-Figure-Out-What-You-Want-in-Life). It was timely for me, and I think it might be timely for you too. I love the butterfly illustration.

    While I don’t have any magic shields and don’t have the bandwidth to help individuals, I think there is some value to getting involved via social media with those walking in our shoes. My caution, however, is to avoid like the plague radical women who are stuck in “poor me” victim mode. We need solutions. Therefore, I encourage you to seek out those who seem to be able to maturely think outside the proverbial box.

    My next suggestion is to eradicate your ex from your head. This isn’t easy. I urge you to read my posts about “pit bull” abusers because my sense is that your ex is a pit bull abuser. These are the guys who can’t and won’t let go. It is very, very difficult to not respond when they push our hot buttons, but this is exactly what we must do. We must focus on our lives ~ our goals ~ our dreams and not let ourselves get distracted by their annoying buzzing. It takes time to master this, but you will be happier when your life is about YOU and only you and your children.

    My next suggestion is to engage in self-care. Eat healthy. Get regular exercise ~ something fun that you enjoy. Get good sleep. This will help you to feel more in control of your life and give you a clearer head.

    I am a big believer in having faith in ourselves. When fear takes over in our heads, we can’t function properly or think clearly. This too isn’t easy, but you can master it in time.

    Finally, I am a huge believer in the court of public opinion. As you know, abusers isolate us. We need to build healthy relationships with people who will support and protect us. Some people call this a tribe. I was licensed to practice law in two states, but I don’t think most of us will find justice in the court system. As you saw with the recent NFL scandal, the court of public opinion renders much more swift and certain justice. Our personal courts of public opinion consist of family and friends who can put peer pressure on your ex to grow the hell up, be a real man, and find a healthy hobby which isn’t focused on making your life miserable.

    I don’t have all the answers, Jennifer, but I have posted everything I have learned on my own quest to rid my life of a corrupt, abusive, state supreme court judge. MFer has been stalking me since 1992, and my biggest dream is that one day a guy with a deep, booming voice will call him up and suggest he find a new hobby ~ woodworking, photography, ballroom dancing, etc. Everytime he tries to intrude on my life, I say to myself, “get a life, asshole.” I give myself an evening to be totally pissed off, and I move on.

    Please try to find Martha Beck’s article either on-line or at the library. It is excellent advice on how to clean out the swamp when it is full of alligators. Have faith in yourself. Know that God loves you.

    Wishing you all the very best,
    Anne Caroline

  44. Maria. Google The Intellectual observer news with an article titled How to stop paying that bitch child support. Its a real game. .. let me know how the case goes. Ciao Bella

  45. Hi Ms. Drake please Google mark newton Newark NJ.I am his 75 victim in the city of Newark NJ. This man has destroy lives time and time again. Not only is the city doing nothing to stop him but they don’t care. There were 3 stories done by the Newark star ledger, also by news12nj and ABC channel 7 . If you thought you herd stories about abuse of the court then this will blow you away. I hope I will have the opportunity to be in contact with you . please Google his info first, you will be amazed. The courts refuses to punish this man, but his victims are left to be dragged through the court system missing work and paying thousands for lawyers just to have the charges eventually thrown out.

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