Bravo: Deanna Gayle Walters Graduated with a BSW Today!


Kit Gruelle and Deanna Gayle Walters

Kit Gruelle and Deanna Gayle Walters

Guest column by Kit Gruelle

Today is Deanna’s Big Day! She’s graduating from Appalachian State with her BSW, and I (we!!) could not be more proud of and happy for her.

When I first met Deanna, it was not long after she had survived a harrowing cross-country nightmare with her little girl and her ESTRANGED husband Robbie.

Robbie beat the hell out of Deanna for days. Their daughter witnessed it all. The 18-wheeler they were in (Robbie’s cousin drove) was finally stopped in Oklahoma.

Deanna and her daughter were taken to the hospital where a spectacular ER nurse did an incredible job documenting Deanna’s injuries.

Deanna and Kit at the shelter in a scene from Private Violence

Deanna and Kit at the shelter in a scene from Private Violence

When Deanna was released from the hospital and returned to NC, despite the seriousness of her injuries, the local prosecutor (essentially) told Deanna that, because she did not run, he was only going to charge Robbie with one count of Misdemeanor Assault on a Female. The most time he could/would receive was 150 days in the county jail.

Deanna Gayle Walters and Stacy Cox after a radio interview

Deanna Gayle Walters and Stacy Cox after a radio interview

In stepped Stacy Cox, the advocate extraordinaire who saw this for what it was, was outraged, and made up her mind to make the system take seriously what had happened to Deanna.
She started calling the FBI. She kept calling the FBI. Finally, they took the case and Robbie was prosecuted in federal court.

By the time the case went to trial, Deanna had started to understand that she was NOT who Robbie told her she was. She started to know that she was bright, capable, strong, and beautiful.

Kit Gruelle and Deanna Walters meeting at Kit's cabin in a scene from Private Violence

Kit Gruelle and Deanna Walters meeting at Kit’s cabin in a scene from Private Violence

Deanna testified in court. She told the whole story and drilled holes in the bullshit story the defense tried to offer up. As she spoke, she laid claim to herself in front of the man who tried to kill her. Robbie was sentenced to over 20 years in federal prison. What a victory it was and still is!

Now Deanna has reached a huge milestone. She has worked her ass off for this.

Stacy and Deanna started out as advocate and client.  Now, they are colleagues.

Stacy and Deanna started out as advocate and client. Now, they are colleagues.

People often recoil when I talk about doing this work. It’s because they assume it is all dark and depressing. Much of the time, it is. Women die every day across the U.S. at the hands of murderous, entitled, male-supremacists hell-bent on killing women they regard as their personal property. The majority of these homicides are completely preventable, but we do not live in a country that values women’s lives.

Deanna is a shining example of the power and beauty of survival. Now, thanks to the FACT that she is free, she wants to take her experience, wisdom, and courage and help other women and children. This is the beauty of the (old-fashioned) battered women’s movement.

Bless you, Deanna, as you move forward! You are a joy to know and a joy to watch! You go girl!!

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Editor’s Note:

Deanna’s story was featured in the award-winning documentary Private Violence.  North Carolina has amazing domestic violence advocates, and every survivor deserves the support, faith, commitment, professionalism, and dedication of Stacy Cox, who Kit portrayed in the documentary.  When I saw the film, I cried because so many of us aren’t blessed with a Stacy in our lives.  We fall through the proverbial cracks and struggle to barely survive the rest of our lives.

The good news, folks, is that Deanna and Stacy are both available as advocates.  They both richly deserve a job where their talents and commitment are honored, rewarded, and respected.

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Related Posts:

Bravo:  Kit Gruelle!  Survivor, Graduate, and Director of Private Violence  8/9/12

Bravo:  Private Violence Wins a Sundance Grant!  7/11/13

Bravo:  Private Violence Wins a Fledgling Fund Grant  7/15/13

October 20:  Private Violence Premieres on HBO!!! 10/18/14

Review:  Private Violence  10/18/14

Bravo:  Private Violence and Bully Win Emmy Nominations  7/22/15

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5 responses to “Bravo: Deanna Gayle Walters Graduated with a BSW Today!

  1. So good to hear from you, Vernetta. You are the reason I have so many amazing friends in North Carolina. My hope is that you will be blessed abundantly.

    Sending hugs and best wishes,
    Caroline

  2. Bless you, Anne Caroline! It’s not a matter of whether or not they can – Nobody should have to fight this battle alone-it’s too much. Survivors need someone to be their voice – only for a brief moment -until they can find their own again. I know, I’m a survivor. There was not an agency in my County when I needed it and I understand the struggles, the intimidation, the uncertainty and confusion. I had no idea what domestic violence was until I got out of my first marriage and realized how bad it had been. I declared that I would find a job empowering others as soon as I was able. That’s just what I’ve done for the past 16.5 years as domestic violence case manager and court advocate, until my health Forced me out of my job recently. I’m not done with advocacy-it’s My passion-stay tuned.
    I’m so proud of Deanna and how far she’s come. Her strength is amazing, she has come so far since the first time we met in 2008..nobody would recognize the person I met so many years ago. She’s a miracle; her life, an inspiration. She’s a butterfly, completely free of the cocoon that held her for so long.

  3. Always in awe to read about women I know, respect and love unconditionally.

  4. Stacy and Temple,

    Thank you so much for your comments and support. I can’t tell y’all how long I have wanted to tell the world about these amazing women in NC. We are all butterflies, and I think I should add that image to this post.

    Sending hugs and best wishes,
    Caroline

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