Remembering Ron Goldman and Nicole Brown Simpson

How did the brutal murders of Nicole Brown Simpson and Ronald L. Goldman impact your life?  Did you think ~ as I did ~ “there but for the grace of God go I?”  Did you realize it was time to break down your own walls of silence?

Today is the 18th anniversary of the day O.J. Simpson brutally murdered Ms. Simpson and her friend Mr. Goldman and got away with it.  We are all invited to light a candle tonight to remember them.

Ron Goldman

Too often Mr. Goldman gets lost in this story. He will always be my hero because he’s the only person who stepped up to the plate to protect Ms. Simpson.  He is perhaps the charter member of the Men Against Domestic Violence movement.  He was there for her when the rest of the world was busy sucking up to Mr. Simpson.  Abuse survivor and Los Angeles Times columnist the late Andrea Dworkin opined:

Surrounded by family, friends and a community of affluent acquaintances, Nicole Simpson was alone. Having turned to police, prosecutors, victim’s aid, therapists and a women’s shelter, she was still alone. Ronald L. Goldman may have been the only person in 17 years with the courage to try to intervene physically in an attack on her; and he’s dead, killed by the same hand that killed her, an expensively gloved, extra-large hand.

Nicole Brown Simpson

Mr. Goldman was there for her when her best “friend” Kris Kardashian Jenner was too busy with her uber-narcissistic life on June 12, 1994.  Her late husband had the outrageous audacity to defend Mr. Simpson.

OJ Simpson

O.J. Simpson is in jail now, but not for the murders.  The Goldman family got a measure of justice with a “guilty” verdict in a civil wrongful death trial, but Mr. Simpson never paid the damages assessed by the court.

Fred and Kim Goldman

I couldn’t watch the criminal trial.  It did, however, help me appreciate that I was very lucky to still be alive.  I wasn’t the only domestic violence survivor to feel this way or to know without a doubt that Mr. Simpson was guilty.  We silently and collectively knew we couldn’t remain silent.  A lot of us wished we knew someone with Mr. Goldman’s courage, integrity, and strength of character.  We all admired the Goldman family for their outspoken grace during an unbelievably painful time.

You brought us pride, love, joy, and happiness,
We hope we have brought you honor.
– The Goldman Family

When the Goldman family came to the Chicago area on their book tour to promote His Name Is Ron:  Our Search for Justice, I drove over 100 miles to meet them and express my condolences.  After hearing my story, Kim Goldman asked me to break my own silence.  I promised her that I would.  I had no idea at the time that the first person I would tell was Oprah Winfrey after she announced Black & Blue as her book club selection on Maundy Thursday, 1998.

Today I hope time has helped the Goldman and Brown families heal.  I pray that they are able to recall Ron and Nicole with a smile on their lips rather than a tear in their eyes.  I pray they have found peace.  We will never forget.

14 responses to “Remembering Ron Goldman and Nicole Brown Simpson

  1. Thank you so much for reminding me of this today. I am very much affected by it. Years ago, I met Nicole (and OJ) at a school event in L.A. Her daughter Sydney and my daughter Cristen were both about five years old. Nicole was very warm, and was especially affectionate with her daughter.
    In 1995, I remember watching the verdict being read, clutching my husband’s hand, and crying out in grief. In 2001, I worked with Denise Brown to put on a fundraiser in Nicole’s honor, raising money for victims of domestic violence. Working with Nicole’s family was an honor, one I will never forget. At the time, Denise recounted to me her family’s struggles of sharing custody of the kids with OJ, while knowing what he had done. I am so grateful they finally pinned something to that sociopath, and locked him up!

  2. Thank You Lord each day for Ron Goldman and his unbeatable spirit..May his memory create a legacy all over the world for the fight against domestic violence..God bless Nicole and her family as well for enduring the agony with the Goldman family on a crime that should never had happened.If we would all stand together as one unbeatable force than those who brutalize innocent victims will be brought to justice…I shall always remember this day but most importantly have there souls etched in my heart for all eternity..God Bless them both and all who suffered that day and are still suffering that void of energy and love that was too soon taken from us on this earth..May we be worthy to stand up for all who go through those dark nights and days with a feeling that no one is listening..Now is the time to listen to the Drummer and hear the heartbeat of courage to stand for what is right….God Bless You All….Betty Robbins

  3. I never watched the Simpson trial, because I knew he was guilty and because I knew that he was going to found not guilty. Bribery to the jury.

  4. I thought Marcia Clark was very thorough and competent, but the bribers were not on her side. There was no need for Simpson’s attorneys to be diligent, because they knew that they had already won the case through bribery. Cochrane blaming the detective for racism, had nothing to do with the murder evidence. This was a waste of the court’s time.

  5. Ingrid,

    Don’t you miss Nancy’s site? I certainly do.

    It breaks my heart to hear that this issue is as horrific in South Africa as it is here. I think we need to shift the DV paradigm away from the criminal “justice” system and into the medical and religious communities. The courts don’t know how to deal with narcissistic personality disorder or pit bull abusers.

    Thank you for visiting all the way from South Africa!

    Sending hugs,
    Anne Caroline

  6. Betty,

    Welcome! I enjoy all your “cuz” comments for Jewely on FB, and I’m delighted to find your loving comment here. Hope you’ll come back to visit again.

    Sending hugs,
    Anne Caroline

  7. Hollye,

    Bless you for supporting the Brown family. I often wonder about the children. It seems like their needs and feelings got swept away by the drama and media hype.

    Thanks for your touching comment.

    Sending hugs,
    Anne Caroline

  8. I never thought about possible bribery, Earl. There’s a lot Marcia Clark and the rest of the defense team could have and should have done. She didn’t say much, for example, when OJ put on those gloves. Of course they wouldn’t fit ~ they were soaked in blood and would naturally shrink. I also can’t fathom why they’d put a known racist cop on the stand when he wasn’t even the lead cop on the investigation.

    At the same time, I don’t think that jury would have convicted OJ if they had been eyewitnesses to the murders. You comment does have me wondering whether they were “thanked” by OJ after the trial was over.

  9. I have to agree with you about Marcia Clark, because you are a lawyer and I watched very little of the case. The jury received “thanks” from the “Dream Team” and Simpson. With or without the glove, there was still plenty of evidence to convict Simpson. After the trial, the jury had a party, where do you think the money for the party came from?

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  11. You should re submit this story once a year…on todays date. I always light two candles.

  12. Good idea. I don’t republish my posts because they tend to be evergreen (grow in popularity as they age). Thank you for suggesting two candles. I have two angels prominently displayed in my apartment for Ron and Nicole. And, I frequently light candles for both of them.

    Sending hugs and best wishes,
    Anne Caroline

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