Rights for Mothers Blog Has a New Address

© 2009, Carole May

Rights for Mothers was a Top 100 blog.  I cannot fathom why WordPress decided to “toss” it.

 The force behind the blog is extraordinarily well-informed on the issue of litigation abuse in child custody cases.  She posts a wealth of information from around the world.  She speaks truth to power.  She holds abusive men accountable for manipulating the legal system as an instrument of abuse under the guise of parental alienation syndrome.

What Is Parental Alienation Syndrome?

Junk science.  Psychiatry, psychology, and judicial professionals all consider it to be bogus.  Yet, too many abusive fathers get away with it because too many family court judges are ill-informed, easily manipulated, and perhaps abusive behind their own closed doors.

When a savvy judge hears “parental alienation syndrome,” the judge knows there is an abusive father getting even with a mother trying to protect her children from brutality and/or incest.  Most of these guys have learned the hard way that physical and sexual abuse entail serious jail or prison time.  While incarcerated, they share war stories about how they turned the tables on the mothers of their children.  Web sites continue their education.

They quickly figure out how to legally deliver a deadly blow to the loving mothers of their children:  take her kids in a protracted custody battle and compel her to pay child support.  The mothers are further traumatized because they know their kids are not safe.

Sadly, most of these mothers ~ many of whom gave up careers to stay home to rear their children ~ don’t have the financial resources required to prevail in court and protect their kids.

Rights for Mothers Was a Safe Harbor for Non-Custodial Mothers

In too many cases, the only safe harbor ~ the only resource ~ available to these loving mothers was Rights for Mothers.

The blog held powerful abusive men accountable.  The blog routinely re-published stories from major media outlets about powerful, abusive men who were able to win custody of their kids.  These desperate “men” didn’t like having a bright light shined on their brutality.

The editors of the newspapers publishing the original stories protected their journalists and upheld their duties under the First Amendment.

But, it appears WordPress yielded to the pressure of these desperate, powerful guys.

I’m fairly certain if Rights for Mothers had been expressing strong political views that WordPress would not have tried to supress her right to free speech.  They would have instantly recognized the power plays intent on silencing her and quashing the truth.

Breaking Down the Walls of Silence

Rights for Mothers has a new home free from censure.  She is working valiantly to restore her posts without much help from WordPress.

The number of sites breaking down the walls of silence is growing.  We will continue to speak out on the issues of domestic violence, child abuse, incest, dating abuse, violence against women, the need for family court reform, police misconduct, and litigation abuse.

We will be packing court rooms to make sure mothers get justice.

We will continue holding the Battered Mothers Custody Conference until our playbook is better than theirs and our childrens’ rights are protected.

We will demand family court reform.  We will not quit until corruption in the courtroom is over.  We will speak out, work hard, lobby, educate, and advocate until the best interests of the child standard is upheld.

12 responses to “Rights for Mothers Blog Has a New Address

  1. Pingback: Rights for Mothers Blog Has a New Address « Claudine Dombrowski a Battered Mother Survives·

  2. It should be called Word-Surpress! But onward and upward! We will never shut up, give up or GO AWAY!

  3. Interesting that -I am able to read absolutely hateful postings about women- on sites, and yet- a blog that posts about the victims of crime- and endeavours to help- is- suddenly- “dumped”. Is there something in our culture that says -that victims have no right to “speak ” about their plight? By observation alone- it would seem so- especially if the victim(s) happens to be a woman or a child. I think our society is moving backwards .I keep getting the message from various sources-and from noting actions like this site having been- tossed- :
    that if you are a woman who has been abused and/or your children have been profoundly hurt- you can’t do a damn thing about it.

  4. Thanks, Cold North Wind, for speaking out. I believe we can achieve change by using our First Amendment freedoms. They are there to prevent oppression and to shine a bright light on evil. The guys who did this to Nancy are evil. And, I think WordPress was cowardly for caving in. Hopefully, their embarrassment over losing one of their top bloggers will give them pause the next time some evil jerk tries to silence a valiant warrior woman.

    I’ve added you to my Breaking Down the Walls of Silence blog roll.

  5. I desperately need to be contacted, especially before my children grow any more knowledgeable of the wrongs their environment is making them settle with. Will I ever have freedom from his wrath?

  6. Joni,

    Thank you for visiting and leaving a comment. The part I can answer is your question about freedom. You might want to go to my “Survive, Thrive, Joy” page. You will notice the drop-down menu offers you “Survivor Skills & Strategies” which will take you to “Pit Bull Abusers.”

    If your children’s father is a pit bull, he isn’t likely going to let go absent significant outside intervention. It might help to think of him as a stubborn puppy who is resistant to potty training or just can’t resist your new pair of shoes.

    This does NOT mean you are doomed. You WILL need a sense of humor.

    Freedom is very much a state of mind. His efforts to continue to control you are intended to distract you from your own life’s mission and to remain in your life anyway he can even if his role is limited to being an annoying jerk.

    Your freedom will turn on your ability to maintain a disciplined focus on your mission. Yes, I know this is very, very difficult. It is very tempting to respond to his interference with your life. Don’t. Each time you respond, you are allowing him to control your life.

    It might help if you think of him as a spoiled brat kid in serious need of a time out. He’s going to fight like hell to continue to be a spoiled brat ~ to see if he can wear you down. And, the process of teaching him your boundaries will be draining. However, this is the ONLY way you’ll get the freedom you want and need. Humor helps a lot. It also helps to think of him as a ridiculous cartoon character.

    Pit bulls tend to be narcissists. What do we know about narcissists? Their power is more illusion than reality ~ like the movie The Wizard of Oz.

    I encourage you to take advantage of the resources available on my site as well as those at Rights for Mothers, Stop Family Violence, and the other survivor blogs on my blogroll.

    Unfortunately, there are very few resources available to help mothers ~ it is pretty much self-help at this point. Mothers like you, however, are banding together to change the system. And, IMHO, they are having some great success.

    Good luck and God bless,
    Anne Caroline

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