Thank you for visiting and leaving a comment. The part I can answer is your question about freedom. You might want to go to my “Survive, Thrive, Joy” page. You will notice the drop-down menu offers you “Survivor Skills & Strategies” which will take you to “Pit Bull Abusers.”

If your children’s father is a pit bull, he isn’t likely going to let go absent significant outside intervention. It might help to think of him as a stubborn puppy who is resistant to potty training or just can’t resist your new pair of shoes.

This does NOT mean you are doomed. You WILL need a sense of humor.

Freedom is very much a state of mind. His efforts to continue to control you are intended to distract you from your own life’s mission and to remain in your life anyway he can even if his role is limited to being an annoying jerk.

Your freedom will turn on your ability to maintain a disciplined focus on your mission. Yes, I know this is very, very difficult. It is very tempting to respond to his interference with your life. Don’t. Each time you respond, you are allowing him to control your life.

It might help if you think of him as a spoiled brat kid in serious need of a time out. He’s going to fight like hell to continue to be a spoiled brat ~ to see if he can wear you down. And, the process of teaching him your boundaries will be draining. However, this is the ONLY way you’ll get the freedom you want and need. Humor helps a lot. It also helps to think of him as a ridiculous cartoon character.

Pit bulls tend to be narcissists. What do we know about narcissists? Their power is more illusion than reality ~ like the movie The Wizard of Oz.

I encourage you to take advantage of the resources available on my site as well as those at Rights for Mothers, Stop Family Violence, and the other survivor blogs on my blogroll.

Unfortunately, there are very few resources available to help mothers ~ it is pretty much self-help at this point. Mothers like you, however, are banding together to change the system. And, IMHO, they are having some great success.

Good luck and God bless,
Anne Caroline

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