I grew up thinking Christie Brinkley lived a fairy tale life. She was Billy Joel’s uptown girl and news anchor David Brinkley’s step-daughter.
Yet, even cover girls can experience litigation abuse when they divorce a narcissist. To the outside world, their ten-year marriage appeared to be perfect. But, behind closed doors, Ms. Brinkley’s ex-husband Peter Cook admittedhe was “an idiot.” Like David Letterman, he sexually harassed his 18-year-old personal assistant Diana Bianchi. To avoid a lawsuit and to keep her quiet, he paid her $300,000. She testified at their divorce trial.
During the trial, it was revealed that Cook abused the children “about a dozen times” and spent $3,000/month to support his addiction to Internet porn. Cook appeared on Barbara Walter’s 20/20 last October to clear his name:
My hope is that the world see that I’m not the scumbag pervert that I’ve been painted to be.
Court-appointed psychiatrist, Dr. Stephen Herman, testified that Cook is “an insatiable narcissist.”
Yesterday, Cook said “I’ll accept ‘narcissit’ over [custodial] ‘interference.'” Sorry, Peter, they are one and the same. Custodial interference/parental alienation is one of the favorite litigation abuse weapons of narcissistic pit bulls. Ms. Brinkley has been subjected to litigation abuse for 3 1/2 years. Most of Cook’s $2.1 million settlement from Ms. Brinkley went to his lawyers for their fees. Yesterday, she suggested people visit DivorcingANarcissist.com. The therapists who maintain the site also havea blog.
On her Facebook page today, Ms. Brinkley posted an excellent article by Emma: “Narcissism and Divorce.” If you are currently engaged in litigation abuse with a narcissistic pit bull, I strongly urge you to print out the article and read it every week because “the courts are usually no match for a narcissist”:
When divorcing a narcissist, you are in for the worst battle of your life. It is important that you have a large support group.
. . .restraining orders. . .document every confrontation. . .protect yourself. . .time-out in order to regroup. The hardest thing to do is not give up.
. . .they will cause you to doubt all your decisions. . .putting your future at risk.
Cook alleged that Ms. Brinkley had engaged in custodial interference and asked Riverhead, New York State Supreme Court Judge Mark Cohen to hold Ms. Brinkley in contempt of court. Cook attempted to assert control over Ms. Brinkley by asking the judge to appoint a parenting coordinator, demand Ms. Brinkley enroll in anger management classes, and cover his legal expenses. The judge didn’t buy it, and both frivolous motions were dropped.
In violation of their divorce settlement’s confidentiality agreement, Cook engaged in a media campaign to smear Ms. Brinkley’s reputation. Emma explained the dynamic:
They cannot tolerate any shows of strength or determination. They thrive on seeing your fear. They may even threaten you, without coming out directly and saying what they will do. It may be physical, financial, or involve the custody of the children. The promise of harm can be enough to wear you down. . .making you look like a nut case.
Cook, for example, perceived it to be parental interference when Ms. Brinkley objected when he took their children (Jack, age 14; Sailor, age 10) sailing with his new girlfriend. Sorry, Peter, judges don’t think it is in “the best interest of the children” for them to witness cohabitation. As the custodial parent, Ms. Brinkley has a duty to her children to protect them. As Emma wisely observes:
Even if he is in a relationship with someone else, they will continually return to you to continually harass long after the divorce is over, in order to get their “fix.” The reason for this is because it is easier to go back to the original source of pleasure than it is to train the new victim. The longer they can do this, the safer their new significant other will be.
Gather Your Strengths
This morning, Ms. Brinkley posted a quote by Prem Rawat which hangs on her wall on her Facebook page: