Back-atcha!

If y’all down-under here in the lower 48 want/need a belly laugh, visit Deb’s site: Well Seasoned Woman (see blogroll). She’s brilliant, funny, and ever-so irreverent.

And, she knows the most amazing artists.

Best to you,
Caroline

Also, I sure appreciate what an amazing and empowered woman that you seem to be. Your words are intelligent and insightful and thus provide some good karma in the blogosphere!

Best,
Deb

You are correct. There is a lot about abuse on the Internet. It can be very overwhelming.

My first recommendation would be my post on March 13 about Rihanna which you should be able to find in my top posts on the right side of this web site.

I don’t think women “protect” the abuser in their lives as much as they are trying to protect themselves from escalating harm or from a life of poverty if they leave. Many don’t want to morph their children’s daddy into a convict.

At the same time, it is indeed difficult to admit to ourselves that the man we have pledged to love doesn’t love, respect, and cherish us. It doesn’t help that abusers typically blame their victims for the abuse.

The women end up wishing they could somehow be “good enough” to recapture the magic in their relationships.

It is tough to accept that what we thought was love is actually an attempt to dominate and control our lives.

Another factor is purely financial. A man serving time in jail isn’t earning a paycheck. And, when he gets out, he may no longer have a job and will have great difficulty as a felon getting one.

I think it is indeed unfortunate that mainstream media do not address the dynamics of domestic violence in a meaningful way. We hear too many myths without fully appreciating all the circumstances.

So, Lizzy, thank you for taking the time to visit my site and to try to understand. I hope I have answered your question. And, I hope you’ll come back and check out the information and resources available here.

If you have more questions, please ask away. I promise to do my best to answer them.