There’s nothing funny about domestic violence, abuse, incest, or molesting kids. Yet, a sense of humor can help us aquire necessary perspective so that we can make wise decisions. Cracking jokes eases tension.
You may have seen Tyler Perry’s movies. You probably don’t know that his comedy comes from his efforts to lift himself up from where you are right now. Madea was his alter-ego who helped him survive, thrive, find joy, and become outrageously wealthy.
While I don’t recommend taking a frying pan upside somebody’s head, visualizing Madea with her big old boobs swinging to and fro vowing to protect her chilren’ just might take you to a happy place long enough to extricate yourself from a bad situation.
It’s Valentine’s Day. Treat yourself to a Tyler Perry movie like Madea’s Family Reunion. Or, get his book Don’t Make a Black Woman Take Off Her Earrings: Madea’s Uninhibited Commentaries on Love and Live. You’ll laugh out loud and learn something too!
If you are currently being abused by a wealthy or powerful person, Diary of a Mad Black Woman is for you. The heroine in this movie walked in your shoes. Tyler Perry will give you lots to think about in terms of protecting yourself and breaking free. He’ll also have you laughing out loud and wishing you had your own Madea in your life! She’s there right now. She’s the voice in your head that says you don’t deserve abuse. She’s the voice in your head that tells you respect is love. She’s the voice in your head that may be telling you to cut your losses and move on.
March 10, 2009 at 12:01 PM
Hello,
Humor is the only way to survive in everyday life especially when something going completely wrong. Of course, my experience is nothing to do with violence. But when you are in foreign country and trying to speak foreign language and learn new culture where so many things can be simply up-side-down compare to your own way of life then life in foreign country also can be perceived as some sort of psychological “violence”. That is why so many people after living in USA for many years are not able to say a word and hang around Americans unless it is kids or teens.
In this case for me the sense of humor was the scientific brake-through-out!!! Honestly. When I started to understand my mistakes that sound so funny and I don’t miss a chance to laugh at myself whenever I am at work, store, or other public place, laugh with the person involved into conversation.
I found that this is the best way to learn something new by putting problem into joke layout.
And, I believe that this is true for any kind of difficult situation! We are born to live, whatever happened is happened, life is not stopped there, it is moving and moving so fast, that the humor is the way to get over and trying to move along with life and not behind.
March 11, 2009 at 4:40 AM
Oh, Elena!
You have mastered the English language so much better than folks who were born and reared here! You have a lovely, lovely accent and such a beautiful way of expressing yourself.
You have blessed me with so much laughter and so many smiles. Your sense of humor and grace and love are contagious. The US was very lucky the day y’all arrived on our shores.
Caroline